What does it mean when a girl pays for you?
Your first question is “how much?”. Her second question is, “how often?”.
These are the two most important questions in a dating relationship. And they both have to be answered by you. If you can’t deal with both at once then she has no intention of pursuing the relationship further. But if you can both deal with them then things will get much more exciting and enjoyable and those initial issues may resolve themselves and they can continue exploring their potential connection in more appropriate ways.
What does it mean when a girl pays for you?
This is a tricky question to answer. In some ways, it is an obvious thing to say, as it is something that most men do. In other ways, it can be a very vague term with very complicated meanings and implications.
I’ve been asked questions like this in interviews and have found that many people are confused about what it means or what exactly the implications are for a relationship. I’ve always wondered why this was the case — should someone who spends money on you not mean something by it?
In general, the fact that someone spends money on you does not mean they love you more than you love them (this would be like saying “your boyfriend loves you more than you love him”). It does not mean that they will do anything for you (this would be like saying “your boyfriend doesn’t do anything for you except buy things for you”). The fact that someone pours money into your life does not imply that they will ever buy things for them (this would be like saying “your boyfriend buys things for him but he doesn’t buy stuff for anyone else in your life except his mother”).
Now, this isn’t to say there isn’t a case where someone will come up with something small to show their support without buying anything — it depends on how much time and effort they put into whatever gift they’re providing. But if someone comes up with something large then there’s no doubt about what the implication of their spending is: their love or affection for us.
Some people get confused about this because of the phrasing — “she” vs “he”. If someone says something like “she” then it’s easy to assume she means something by her spending; if she says “he” then we can tell we are talking about two different people. For example, if she says “he bought me a new pair of shoes today”. This sort of ambiguity calls further attention to the relationship and perhaps implies some deeper meaning beyond simple love or affection. The same goes for phrases like “she bought me an expensive gift (or made an elaborate dinner) because she cares about me and wants my happiness / wants me to be happy / wants me to be fulfilled / wants my happiness / wants my happiness / etc.”
The bottom line here is that while spending money on others usually means nothing more than what has already been established in your relationship — either verbally or through actions taken —
The rules for your dating relationship
A lot of people think that dating is a simple, casual proposition. It’s not. There are some very important things that have to be taken into consideration when you’re considering whether or not to date someone.
First up: 1. You don’t need to date someone “just because” you think they are “good looking”
This is the myth of beauty, and it can be nice if you like that kind of thing, but it should never be the primary factor in deciding whether to date someone or not (not only do you need to trust the other person enough and pay your own way, but beauty is a subjective thing). If you find someone attractive, then great! But not because they are good looking (a question I’d love to know how many people ask).
2. You need to take into account all the factors which affect your decision about whether or not to pursue a potential relationship with them (such as their income, education level and whether they have children)
3. You need to take into account all the factors which affect your decision about whether or not you will pursue a potential relationship with them (such as their age and gender)
If either of these criteria doesn’t apply — even if they apply separately — then it’s probably best just not go forward at all.
The norm for paying
The norm for paying someone is to accept. But who would you rather have a relationship with? The person who pays or the one who is not paying? And then, what if it’s not just the payment, but something else?
This is actually a great question and one that most of us have been asking ourselves. In this case, the answer is: you can’t know unless you try.
But there are also people who think that it means something different, and some even go so far as to claim that paying someone for sex is somehow different from paying someone for a date. While I am sure some people will disagree with this argument (and I am sure it will never be truer than when talking about sex), I want to make it clear that paying someone for a date does not mean anything at all. Even in more traditional relationships, there are things you cannot communicate, and if the person does not agree to those things then communication breaks down completely. So whether or not you should pay for sex depends on what you want out of your relationship, rather than what it means in terms of payment itself.
But if you’re still interested in this topic and want to put your money where your mouth is, here are some things to consider:
• Is she giving up anything by agreeing to this kind of arrangement — like her time or her space — so yes, she should be paid (much like any other form of compensation)
• If she says no do so with grace and respect , and see if she would rather have sex without having any payment required (which could be just as good)
• Is her sexual behavior part of her culture (e.g., does she often tell men no?) If so, maybe it doesn’t make sense for them to pay — even if they want/need to do so as part of their culture
• Does she now feel more comfortable asking others for money? If yes then maybe you should pay instead (who wouldn’t freely give money when asked?) And finally… Who cares about the norm anyway? Sex isn’t a payment; it’s an experience . Sex is free . So why should anyone care if anyone pays another person for sex?
She is treating you for something
In the absence of any other information, this may be a sign she is treating you for something or she is being treated to something. It’s hard to know what this means, but it could be anything from getting a birthday card from her or paying for you to do something. It is the latter that I’m referring to. In the US we have a law called the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA) which makes it illegal for somebody to use their credit rating against you when trying to collect debt. Obviously, if she is paying off your credit card bill and doesn’t want you to pay more, then it can’t be right that she would try and call up and start begging your hand in marriage. If she pays off your credit card bill, it’s possible that she is treating you as an investment so that you will pay off her debt (it may also be that she has a property investment side) — but if not, then I think we have entered into territory where it becomes ethical behaviour for her to treat you for something: if only she was treating me like this too…
Conclusion
Another common question is: what does it mean when a girl pays for you?
I promise, it doesn’t mean anything. It’s a nice gesture from someone who is in a position to help you. If someone is trying to buy your time, that’s not what it means. If someone wants to buy your thoughts about something, that’s not what it means either. You should never pay for anyone else’s time or opinion on anything; especially not in the form of money.
If you are with someone who seems to be interested in talking more about the qualities of some product or service — and they ask you if they can pay you — this is probably not the right conversation even though they may be asking for something specific (like an article).
