What is poaching and why is it associated with being a homewrecker?
Homewrecking is the act of stealing someone’s personal information in order to use it for a malicious purpose, such as fraud, identity theft or other nefarious activities.
Unfortunately, we have all encountered cases of this and we have all felt the pain of being stolen from. It happens across the board: from our Facebook friends who are robbed of their privacy, to our bank accounts and credit cards being taken over by unscrupulous people who want them for nefarious purposes.
There are three key elements that make up a homewrecker:
(1) The idea is to steal someone else’s data (usually via hacking or scams)
(2) The idea is to use that data for malicious purposes (such as identity theft or fraud)
(3) The person who steals the data is an employee at a company – they are trying to use it fo gain an advantage in the workplace and/or maintain an advantage against competition.
A homewrecker can be anyone who takes your data but doesn’t get paid for doing so. These two distinctions may seem trivial but they are important because they allow us to be more specific about what we mean when we talk about poaching – without getting bogged down in terminology that can be very confusing – especially if you don’t know what you’re talking about. So let us look at each of these distinctions in turn:
1) stealing someone else’s data; as opposed to hacking into someone else’s data (which we will discuss further below); means *someone* other than you has your information and it is very easy for others to acquire this information with little effort (or zero effort). Here is a perfect example: – My Facebook friends on my list share my photographs on their wall photos and one of them recently posted one I hadn’t seen before on his wall: I didn’t know it was him until later when I saw his name on the list of people he knew – so I could see where he got my photo from! And there were several others too, some which also came out of nowhere! You just need something like this -and- you do not need nefarious intent (for example, revenge or pure stupidity). This sort of thing happens all the time and it’s really easy; if you want to find out how much money anyone else might be making off your data without your knowledge then check out this
How to be a successful homewrecker.
The world of homewreckers is a strange place. In the western world, the term is typically associated with love and sexual affairs, but in China, it’s a great way to make money.
Not only that, but in a country where the average annual income is $1,000 per month (that’s more than $80,000 per year), making money off your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend is something most people do anyway.
The thing is though: there are so many different ways to make money from your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend that we’re going to look at several different angles here, which I am sure will interest you.
The consequences of being a homewrecker.
Have you ever found yourself feeling pretty tired about your relationship? Have you ever blamed yourself for the other party’s attitude or behavior towards you? Blame is a strong emotion, and it can make people do strange things. The brain doesn’t like it when we feel like we’re taking credit for something that someone else did, so it responds by making us feel bad. When our brains are in this state, we are much more likely to excuse bad behavior by others. We also tend to take credit for things that aren’t our fault (Charles Dickens called this “liking yourself so much that you are able to forgive anybody anything”).
How do you make the switch from being a homewrecker to being a homewrecker-abuser? It may seem counterintuitive, but here’s how:
– Don’t blame them! Instead of feeling bad about getting dumped and saying “You were just not good enough for me!” say instead “I would have been happy if we had stayed together!”
– Be honest about why you dumped them. If someone dumps us, the first thing the brain does is make us think they didn’t mean it (even though they likely did). So don’t try to justify your actions by saying “They just weren’t good enough for me! I knew they were good enough! They just weren’t my type. Which means I could have been really happy with somebody else…but I chose not to be with them because my type wasn’t compatible with theirs. Even though I loved what I did with them, and even though they were very nice people…they just weren’t right for me. And that’s OK because there are lots of people who are awesome and validating in their own way who aren’t suitable partners/dates/friends/best friends/partners/etc… But if a person says something like that, then be honest about why you broke up with them…and then don’t blame anyone else but yourself for having made that choice!
The above takes some time and self-reflection (but its worth it), but will do wonders for your confidence and spirit of independence; especially if you still love being cuddled in bed at night wishing someone was there beside you. This is one of those topics where only YOU can decide whether its worth doing
How to avoid being a homewrecker.
As anyone who has spent any time on a dating site can tell you, there’s nothing wrong with being a homewrecker. In fact, it’s a very attractive way to make money in the tech startup world. The main reason why this is so attractive is that it allows you to get away with pretty much anything.
In the most common case, you don’t need to be particularly creative in your approach. If you are looking for someone who will be attracted to your looks, or even if you just want someone who is good looking themselves, then this strategy works well. Then again, maybe you are more interested in being an asshole than a homewrecker (and if that’s the case, then bear in mind that some of your success with this strategy is likely due to people underestimating how successful you will be).
There are various skills required for this strategy to work. You need to look good and act like an asshole: no one wants to talk about their problems or their family when they are with other people (and even though we might think that we want people around us who are happy and healthy and well-adjusted, we also know that these aren’t necessarily our primary concerns). This may require some social skills as well as acting like someone else: pretending that “I couldn’t care less what he thinks of me as long as I know he likes me” is usually a good way of turning someone on. You need confidence too — and many people will find these qualities attractive (especially if they are not confident themselves).
But the biggest skill required here is adaptability — one of the key things when it comes to dating sites. If your objective is simply getting laid (even though there may be valid reasons for doing so), then you will likely have trouble adapting quickly enough or receiving feedback about how well it has gone when it does work out because people just aren’t interested in what other people think about them (think “You don’t know me at all! wtf? wtf? wtf? wtf? wtf? wtf?!”). But if your goal is actually interesting conversation and developing meaningful relationships with other people over time, then this strategy will work very well for those looking for long term relationships. And if this seems like something that interests you but doesn’t involve sex yet, then I guess having sex first
Conclusion: The pros and cons of being a homewrecker.
In a previous post I discussed the ‘customer segmentation’ you need to do in order to sell a product. In the last post I talked about the use of the term ‘customer’ and how it can have different meanings and implications depending on context.
A customer, by definition is an individual who will buy from you under some circumstances — and if you are selling products to individuals then you are making a product-market fit decision based on a lack of alternatives that would be better for that person.
To make this decision, all you have to do is ask them about their needs and what they want for it. And if they say something like: “I have some friends who don’t have any cars, and I’d like to get one so I don’t get to be stuck at my parents’ house all day, so I could go out with my friends.” then this is an example of a customer segmentation analysis (CSA) by itself. However, if they say something like: “I want an electric car so I can get around without having to wait at traffic lights or parking lots etc., so that I can leave my house before it starts getting dark. So I would recommend Tesla because they have electric cars with great range.” then that is an example of a product-market fit analysis (PMA) for which we should provide feedback and decide what kind of car we should make for them based on their needs (and best case scenario, their needs exactly match our needs).
So a good thing about CSA/PMA is that you can go back and forth between them easily — as long as your customers seem happy with your response for either one of them (it doesn’t matter which one), it’s not really necessary to make changes in order to meet customers’ needs across both segments every time. One more thing: when there are multiple products/services/business models available, each business model has its own CSA/PMA analysis process (or equivalently strategy). The reason why there’s perfect overlap between both is because each segment has been developed separately and independently from the other segments in terms of the specific type(s) or value(s) it provides — but those segments are complementary nonetheless because each business model offers something unique or unique combination(s) of those unique value(s). It’s worth understanding some more technical aspects behind how these
